I came of age as a therapist in the early 1980’s when the recent Women’s Liberation movement had just brought violence against women and children squarely into the public eye. Particularly sexual violence, long taboo was finally becoming exposed. Obviously it has gone in and out of the shadows since then, but that was an important “outing” that rapidly determined the direction of my work as a therapist.
I soon discovered that a vast majority of my clients came to therapy because they found relationships difficult to seemingly impossible. Long compelled by the conundrum of relationships (in part because it had been so difficult for me!) this became my specialty. I began to avidly study trauma, then barely known, as the PTSD diagnosis only came into being in 1980! When the 1990’s brought “the decade of the brain,” I became a dogged student of neuroscience, since trauma affects the ordinary function of the brain and nervous system.
It wasn’t long before I learned that sexuality was a massive challenge for the traumatized and set out to add sex therapy to my tool box by becoming a certified sex therapist. Research verified that relationship and sexuality are indeed some of the most hard hit areas for the traumatized. What to do about this became my mission of the last 40 years.
I love my challenging work, continuing to see clients and couples for psychotherapy. I love writing and sharing what I continue to learn, with those too distant to visit, as sadly these problems are world wide.
In my spare time I am an avid bicyclist, baker of sourdough bread, and impassioned maker of artisan cheese. Perhaps my greatest gift as a therapist is my attitude of undying hope and optimism. I certainly did not always have this. It was a wonderful bi-product of doing lots of personal work like the kind I do with clients now. I live happily in San Francisco with my husband of 28 years.